Hey there, I’m Scott
Are you ready to take the next step in life and your relationships? You’re in the right place!
You’ve found online counseling services that integrate faith and mental health, specializing in the intersection of relationships, sexuality, and spirituality.
I can help you if you relate to areas such as the following …
- I just can’t seem to find a good work-life balance.
- I feel like I’m just skimming the surface of life.
- I desire more passion, pleasure, and play in my life.
- I feel emotionally disconnected from my partner and don’t know why.
- I crave a new dimension in my sex life, it feels like something important is missing.
- I feel awkward in bed and want my sex life to be pleasurable and connecting.
- I struggle with what feels like unwanted or out-of-control sexual behavior.
- I desire to revitalize my marriage and restore and transform it where appropriate.
- I feel a God-shaped hole in my life but find religion a turn-off.
- I want help creating a relationship with something greater than myself.
Integrative
A whole health—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual—approach to life and love. My commitment is to support you in breaking free from limiting beliefs, self-defeating patterns, social conditioning, and blocks to sex, love, and more in a way that is nurturing and soothing to your whole person. It is my hope that you will then be able to experience a greater sense of purpose, passion, and pleasure as well as love and connection.
Pastoral
Every time we meet you can count on me to bring my pastor’s heart to listen deeply, with full attention and presence. I provide you with a supportive space that is safe, compassionate, and non-judgmental where you can speak from the heart about what matters to you, helping you to own your voice while getting in touch with your needs, values, longings, and desires. I hope that in this place you will be able to release the guilt, shame, and fear that binds you.
Counseling
Together we will c0-create a partnership that supports you in your work of self-discovery and personal growth. We will accomplish this through a client-centered approach that is holistic (psycho-spiritual-somatic) and that is educational without being directive. You will learn skills, tools, and practices to support you in communicating more effectively, and living with greater self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and authenticity.
About Me
I am a lover of people, simply living, and roads less traveled. I married to my best friend and together we have five children. Those who know me best describe me as tender-hearted with a sharp mind. I think of myself as an everyday, practical theologian and shepherd of the soul.
I am an ordained minister in private practice as a master’s level, board certified pastoral counselor, with additional training in spiritual direction, and whole health coaching. My practice integrates spiritual formation and mental health with a focus on faith, love, and sexuality.
My practice includes individuals and couples from all faiths, cultures, and lifestyles including those who consider themselves religious, spiritual but not religious, and/or who claim no particular faith tradition or spiritual path.
I help individuals and/or couples with areas such as:
- understanding themselves as relates to relationships, sexuality, and spirituality; supporting them to integrate these areas in their life
- seeking and finding freedom from sexual and relational brokenness
- reconciling their faith and sexuality
- struggling with what feels like unwanted or out of control sexual behavior
- preparing to take the next steps in their relationship as well as those looking to revitalize their marriage, and where appropriate to heal, restore and transform it
As someone who has struggled with sexual and relational brokenness myself and come out on the other side with victory and freedom, my passion is to help people see life’s challenges and transitions as opportunities for transformation so they can live whole, healthy and satisfying lives, right here, right now.
Specialty Areas
Faith
- Church Hurt
- Doubt & Deconstruction
- Existential Crisis
- Finding Meaning & Purpose
- Forgiveness
- Grief & Loss
- Guilt & Shame
- Life Transitions
- Moral Injury
- Reclaiming / Recreating Spirituality
- Religious & Spiritual Abuse
- Spiritual Direction & Practices
Love
- Communication Skills
- Conflict Resolution
- Family
- Fun & Adventure
- Growth & Spirituality
- Renew & Revitalize Relationships
- Sex & Intimacy
- Shared Purpose
- Theology of Marriage
- Trust & Commitment
- Wishes, Hopes, & Dreams
- Work & Money
Sexuality
- Desire Discrepancy / Mismatched Desire
- Fantasy, Fetishes & Kink
- Healing & Growth
- Low Desire
- Out-of-control Sexual Behavior
- Pornography Concerns
- Sacred & Sanctified Sexuality
- Sexual Health
- Sex & Intimacy
- Sexual Orientation & Identity
- Unwanted Sexual Behavior
- Variant Sexual Behavior
How I got here is a very long story, but my resume sums it up nicely.
You can see my accomplishments listed below.
Education
We all start somewhere, and for me that was school.
Doctor of Ministry in Integrative Chaplaincy
(Integrating Spirituality & Mental Health)
expected completion 2024
Vanderbilt Divinity School
Clinical Pastoral Education
(Psycho-Spiritual Dynamics & Interpathic Counseling)
College of Pastoral Supervision and Psychotherapy
Master of Divinity in Theology & Leadership Development
Phoenix Seminary
Bachelors of Science in Philosophy
University of Utah
Credentials, Certifications, & Training
In addition to the education above I continue to better myself through continuing education and training. I have listed some additional credentials, certifications, and training that you may find valuable in determining if I am the right fit for your needs.
Board-Certified Pastoral Counselor
Board-Certified Clinical Chaplain
Center for Spiritual Care and Pastoral Formation
Whole Health Coach
The Veterans Health Administration Office of Patient Centered Care & Cultural Transformation
Endorsed Minister for Specialized Ministries
Federation of Christian Ministries
Ordained Presbyter
Continuing Evangelical Episcopal Communion
Certified Christian DISC® Facilitator
Christian DISC®
Facilitator, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
The Gottman Institute
Facilitator, Building Spiritual Strength
The Veterans Health Administration: A Program for U.S. Service Members and Veterans
Experience
My training includes focus on such areas as secure functioning relationships, sacred sexuality, sexual discipleship, and healing and empowerment. Some of the relationship and education modalities I use are: ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), MI (Motivational Interviewing), PST (Problem Solving Therapy), and NVC (Non-Violent Communication.) I actively incorporate each person’s faith and spirituality into their process of healing, growth, and transformation. I enjoy working with people from a variety of faiths, cultures, and backgrounds.
In addition to my work as a pastoral counselor, I work bi-vocationally as a clinical chaplain at the Phoenix VA Medical Center. My spouse and I also speak on occasion in faith communities and churches. We offer workshops that are psycho-spiritual and educational in nature, providing the necessary structure, motivation, and accountability for personal, spiritual, and relational growth. Whatever the workshop topic there is an underlying focus on some aspect(s) or cultivation of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, compassionate communication, conscious relationships and sexuality, and viewing all of life as spiritual practice.
My own formation is not merely academic. It comes from a desire to come alongside others after having gone through my own dark night of the soul in matters related to my relationships, sexuality, and spirituality. All of this ultimately led to my own refiner’s fire. In other words, “I am no stranger to the rain.” I know what it’s like to feel abandoned by friends, family, church, and even God. I know what it is like to wander, to feel far from home, and to experience the existential and spiritual pain associated with “church hurt.” I also know what it is like to find healing and transformation on the other side. My faith has been renewed and I have a greater sense of God’s goodness.
This along with my theological training and non-judgmental approach gives me an outreach that is broad, including to those who have been wounded by the institutional church and/or spiritual communities. I serve those who find themselves on the borderlands of religion. I have both pastoral and lay leadership experience from serving churches within various Christian communities. I am familiar with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as well, having been born and a part of this faith tradition and culture until my early 30’s.
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